I am a person that loves to make new year’s resolutions, and this year is no exception. I have chosen several areas to improve.
The first area is FINANCES. Up to this point, my money management has been a mess! Last year we were able to get on track with a budget and paying bills, but this year I want to focus on SAVING as we still live check-to-check. So, I am trying to follow the 80/10/10 rule of living on 80 %, tithing 10% and saving 10%. Today I started the saving part as my husband’s check came in; I transferred ten percent to an account to start building up a savings/emergency fund. Now I have to write a check for tithing and submit it on Sunday.
My second resolution is about RELATIONSHIPS. First, I want to improve communication with my mom and in-laws as they live out of state; I miss them a lot and I’d like to stay in touch more. Often the days are so busy that I think about picking up the phone, but I don’t make the call, and I hope to follow through with this. Second, I want to be more authentic in my relationships. This year my husband and I made a decision that was important to the family, but at the risk of gossiping, I never mentioned my thoughts or feelings to my friends, including my sister. Now that time has passed, I see that I should have said something just to get encouragement. I am glad we made the decision that we did, but there are lots of emotions to process that I need to express. Also, I avoid conflict, so I often avoid situations where I need to have a difficult, authentic conversation. I often struggle, but I don’t let others know, and I need to be more vulnerable.
Also, I am going to pamper myself this year. Often I put myself last, and I want to be kind to myself. I need to allow myself rest and give myself freedom to try new things.
Finally, I am always working to improve my home management. Fly Lady’s system has been very helpful, and already I see some slow but steady progress in conquering clutter.